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The Paradox of Parenting in the Trump Era

By Farrah Alexander

“Mom, do you like Donald Trunk?” my four-year-old son asked with a somber, quizzical expression.

My son, with his limited knowledge of our nation’s current polarity, couldn’t have possibly understood what a loaded question this was. Although I’m pretty passionate about political issues, I tend to shield my children from civil discourse. At least until after kindergarten.

But I knew my son needed an answer to this question, which was very simple in his mind. He’s starting to grasp new concepts such as that he lives in the United States. Also, we have a president of the United States who sits in a very prestigious looking office and wears suits. Also, his mom doesn’t seem to like the president very much, which is strange because she seems to like everyone.

One week before the 2016 presidential election, I wrote a piece published on HuffPost and Scary Mommy with the headline “I Have to be Able to Tell My Children I Stood Against Trump.” In the piece, I discussed why I felt a personal responsibility as a parent to do everything I can to prevent a Trump presidency:

“I believe after our children learn of the atrocities committed by Trump and the carnage left behind by his vile campaign, they’ll then look to us – as survivors of the 2016 election – and want to know how we felt. More than that, what did we do about it?”

Honestly, I never genuinely considered the possibility of Trump actually winning. I felt assured by Nate Silver’s projections that Clinton would win by a large margin. But beyond poll numbers, I really just had enough faith in the American people that they would not elect someone who spewed vitriol and embraced such intolerance. And yet, here we are and my son is asking if I like Donald Trunk.

It’s quite the parenting dilemma. I have to explain to my children that while Trump holds our nation’s highest office, I hope they never grow up to be like him.

I may have differing political opinions than Trump, but that has no bearing on my opinion of him. If my son asked about George W. Bush, I would choose to talk about how he sought to unite our country after the most horrific terrorist attack most of us had ever seen. If my son asked about Barack Obama, I would discuss how he worked so audaciously his entire life to break down walls and became the first black president. Even if he asked about a presidential candidate such as John McCain, who I didn’t vote for, I would discuss his tremendous courage and bravery in an utterly hopeless scenario.

I plan to teach my children to treat everyone they encounter with respect, regardless of religion, gender, nationality, sexuality, race, disability or any other inherent differences. They are neither inferior nor superior to their peers. I’ll encourage them to treat others as they would like to be treated and choose to be kind.

When I see Trump mocking a disabled reporter, hear him bragging about committing sexual assault and read his callous insults on Twitter, these are all examples of how I raise my children not to behave.

I believe the Maya Angelou adage that when someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time. With Trump’s position of high visibility, I know my kids will be exposed to both his past transgressions and his future offenses. I’m not a total pessimist, but I’m not hopeful that Trump will suddenly put a stop to the same vile behavior that brought him into the political realm.

Many have accused Trump of acting like a toddler. As a parent of a toddler, I find this assertion completely absurd. My toddler is more mild mannered, sweeter and doesn’t whine nearly as much.

I understand my children will likely see Trump as someone who has had fame, fortune and now the oval office. After all, his name alone is plastered in large gold letters on the sides of skyscrapers in most major tourist destinations. Many people probably view such success as a goal to aspire towards. So, I know it’s difficult to tell my children not to emulate the behavior of someone in such a unique position of power.

Behind the glitz, tweets and presidential seals, Donald Trump is just a man. He’s a man who has said and done some very bad things that lead me to believe he may not be very nice.

I always want to protect my children from bullies as they grow and bullying becomes an unfortunate reality. But even more so, I never want them to become bullies. Zero-tolerance policies common in schools would discipline any student using language like Trump routinely uses in an attempt to eliminate the bullying behavior. Elementary school students are not allowed to model the behavior they see from the sitting president.

Success is a worthy goal and I hope I give my children the tools to achieve their own definition of success. But success is not the one and only goal to chase in life. Whether my children grow up to be professional street performers who juggle fire for tips in a can or real estate moguls, I just hope they also have character and integrity. I hope I raised them to be good humans.

I want to give my children the strength and courage to stand up for what is right, even if it’s difficult. It’s my job to monitor who influences my children, helps shape their character and molds them into the contributing adults our society depends on. I know I don’t want that influence to come from Donald Trump.

No, my son, your mother does not like Donald Trump.

As I Was Saying | Trump Vs. Muslim America

By Scotlyn McConnell

No matter how much you don’t want to admit it, America has an underground factory of racism towards Muslims that has been pumping out hate speech since 9/11. With the possibility of Donald Trump becoming president becoming more and more real, how Muslims are treated in this country might get a whole lot worse. From tagging to tracking to deportation, it’s all scary. So, what will the country look like if Trump becomes president?

Trump has differing views when it comes to Muslim immigrants that are here legally and illegally, and how he feels about Muslims who were born here. I want to talk about how he feels about illegal immigrants first, since it’s a whole lot simpler than his views on legal immigrants. Trump doesn’t want illegal immigrants of any sort residing in our country. He has stated that they will be instantly deported. This is a little strange considering the fact that his current wife, Melania, has had a bit of an issue concerning the validity of her own immigration. He also has spoken about revoking birthright citizenship. This means that if a child is born here, but their parents are illegal immigrants, Trump would take away their citizenship and deport them.

His views on legal immigrants and Muslims that were born here are more lengthy and a bit more confusing. The reason they’re confusing is because Trump often backtracks and then backtracks his backtracks and so on and so forth. However, one thing he has stuck to is tagging all Muslims. He wants to do this in more ways than one. The first way is a public identifier that shouts, “HEY GUYS! I’M A MUSLIM!” which would be a patch or pin required to be worn on shirts or jackets. This sounds awfully familiar to how Hitler started out with Jews in 1930s Germany (which Trump has no problem being compared to, by the way).The second way he wants to tag Muslims is kind of a tracking situation. He will require all Muslims to register with local police so they can be “monitored.” According to NBC News, when asked about whether Muslims would be legally obligated to register, Trump replied, “They have to be — they have to be.” Trump also wants to take away mosques, the place of worship for Muslims.

As of now these are the policies that he seems to be unwavering on, but nothing is for sure when it comes to Donald Trump. You may be asking yourself why this matters. While I’m sure some of you are, most of you reading this are probably not Muslim, so this really doesn’t affect you. I mean, there are only 225 Muslims for every 100,000 people in Indiana and only 3.3 million in the entire country, so what’s the point? It’s not that bad, right? Well, friends, I’m sorry to say that yes, it is in fact, that bad.

While most of us are revving up to do our favorite fall activities, our Muslim friends are considering things that seem out of this realm. I personally have a friend who is considering a move to Canada, where his father already has work lined up. Others are considering things that seem even more insane. From Washington down to Florida, I have friends all over the country considering the need to flee.

We all need to keep in mind that just because a group is smaller, that doesn’t mean that that group doesn’t have a right to be human beings. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t vote for Trump — it’s not my place to decide that for you — but I do implore all of you to take every single little thing into consideration before election day rolls around. And I beg, please, please, don’t not vote at all.