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Caroline Hilbrich is wearing Kate Spade glasses, $259; Asher Sigman is wearing Guess glasses, $14; Linette Colwell is wearing Guess glasses, $279; Tyler Bliss is wearing Geoffrey Beene glasses, $209; and Ruth Hedeman is wearing Ted Baker glasses, $249. All eyewear available at Dr. Black’s Eye Associates. 

Eye on the Prize

Get glam – and ready for back to school, too – with glasses from Dr. Black’s Eye Associates 

Photos by Christian Watson

Styled by Miranda McDonald 

Eyewear provided by Dr. Black’s Eye Associates Have2020.com 

Outdoor location shot at Spring Hill Apartment LocustSpring@gmail.com 

Models: Asher Sigman, Caroline Hilbrich, Linette Colwell, Tyler Bliss and Ruth Hedeman 

Tyler Bliss is wearing Maui Jim glasses, $279.

Tyler Bliss is wearing Maui Jim glasses, $279.

No matter your age, now is the time to keep your eye on the prize – whatever that means to you – and check out the latest in eyewear from Dr. Black’s Eye Associates. 

Dr. Black’s Eye Associates features a team of highly qualified ophthalmologists and optometrists who treat patients at several locations in Indiana and Kentucky. They specialize in primary vision care, Dry Eye Treatment, LASIK vision correction, and laser cataract surgery, serving patients from around the egion. The primary office in Jeffersonville includes a state-of-the-art eye surgery center and the Dry Eye Center. Learn more at Have2020.com or call 812.284.0660.

Linette Colwell is wearing Guess glasses, $279.

Linette Colwell is wearing Guess glasses, $279.

Asher Sigman is wearing Guess glasses, $149.

Asher Sigman is wearing Guess glasses, $149.

Caroline Hilbrich is wearing Guess glasses, $209. 

Caroline Hilbrich is wearing Guess glasses, $209.

Ruth Hedeman is wearing Ted Baker sunglasses, $259. 

Ruth Hedeman is wearing Ted Baker sunglasses, $259.

Caroline Hilbrich is wearing Tory Burch sunglasses, $219.

Caroline Hilbrich is wearing Tory Burch sunglasses, $219.

Tyler Bliss is wearing Geoffrey Beene glasses, $209.

Tyler Bliss is wearing Geoffrey Beene glasses, $209.

Asher Sigman is wearing Nike glasses, $189. 

Asher Sigman is wearing Nike glasses, $189.

Ruth Hedeman is wearing Pro Design glasses, $289. 

Ruth Hedeman is wearing Pro Design glasses, $289.

Linette Colwell is wearing Guess glasses, $259.

Linette Colwell is wearing Guess glasses, $259.

Tyler Bliss is wearing Maui Jim sunglasses, $249.

Tyler Bliss is wearing Maui Jim sunglasses, $249.

Caroline Hilbrich is wearing Tory Burch sunglasses, $219. 

Caroline Hilbrich is wearing Tory Burch sunglasses, $219.

Asher Sigman is wearing Maui Jim sunglasses, $299. 

Asher Sigman is wearing Maui Jim sunglasses, $299.

Ruth Hedeman is wearing Ted Baker glasses, $249.

Ruth Hedeman is wearing Ted Baker glasses, $249.

Linette Colwell is wearing Michael Kors sunglasses, $229.

Linette Colwell is wearing Michael Kors sunglasses, $229.

Caroline Hilbrich is wearing Kate Spade glasses, $259; Asher Sigman is wearing Guess glasses, $14; Linette Colwell is wearing Guess glasses, $279; Tyler Bliss is wearing Geoffrey Beene glasses, $209; and Ruth Hedeman is wearing Ted Baker glasses, $249. All eyewear available at Dr. Black’s Eye Associates. 

Caroline Hilbrich is wearing Kate Spade glasses, $259; Asher Sigman is wearing Guess glasses, $14; Linette Colwell is wearing Guess glasses, $279; Tyler Bliss is wearing Geoffrey Beene glasses, $209; and Ruth Hedeman is wearing Ted Baker glasses, $249. All eyewear available at Dr. Black’s Eye Associates.

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Get Fit Before You Hit The Aisle

FOUR BARREL FITNESS OWNER CASE BELCHER OFFERS UP A FEW TIPS TO HELP YOU LOOK AND FEEL YOUR BEST ON YOUR BIG DAY – AND BEYOND 

BY LISA HORNUNG 

Everyone wants to look perfect for their wedding, and when you want to lose weight to do your best, you need to find the right diet and exercise program to make that happen. 

CASE BELCHER, owner of Four Barrel Fitness, said he sees a lot of brides who come in and want to drop pounds before their big day. While he’ll help them reach their goals, he also wants them to continue their progress after the wedding. 

“Say you want to lose 20 pounds before your wedding, but then later you put on 25 pounds,” said Belcher, who is a Crossfit Level 3 coach and a USA Weightlifting Level 1 coach. “We get them through the door with the stuff they’re interested in. Then we say, “Let’s search for that more sustainable path now.” 

Belcher advocates a three-tier system of fitness: nutrition, exercise and lifestyle. Nutrition is all about eating healthy food and fueling your training and life. Exercise includes cardio and strength training, with a buddy or coach. Lifestyle changes include getting enough sleep and drinking enough water. 


NUTRITION 

Fad diets and cleanses are a no-no, Belcher said. “Studies, in fact, show that you tend to put on more weight than what you took off. You can lose weight quickly, but it probably needs to be monitored by a nutritionist or dietitian.” 

Belcher recommends the “hand system” to measure food portions. Four meals a day should have meat or protein (beef, chicken, fish) the size of your palm; a carbohydrate (such as potatoes, rice or carrots) that can fit in a cupped hand; vegetables (such as a salad, asparagus or broccoli) should be the size of your fist; and fats (oils) should be the size of your thumb. “That way no matter where you’re at, you don’t have to have a food scale,” Belcher said. “You can just eye that stuff up.” 

The “go-to thing that people have been told in terms of dieting is you’ve just got tp eat like hardly anything, but that’s totally not true because you don’t have the nutrients you need for training. You’re going to run into a wall, you’re not going to be motivated, you’re not going to have the energy you need to stay consistent. A lot of times when people start eating (utilizing the ‘hand system’), it feels like a lot of food to them. But they’re eating balanced now, they’re getting more fiber because they’re eating vegetables and things like that. They start to lose the fat and lose the pounds.” 

EXERCISE 

For exercise, Belcher said a key component is accountability. Find a gym or place to exercise that’s convenient and where you’ll be able to stay consistent. He recommends either taking a buddy – a bridesmaid or groomsman, perhaps – who will plan to be there with you, holding you accountable. Hiring a coach is another way. You can make appointments, and you’ll be expected to be there. 

Conditioning with cardio along with lifting weights at least three times a week is the best plan, he said. Compound moves, such as pushups, squats, deadlifts and pull-ups or ring rows work more than one muscle at a time. 

“People who are looking for fat loss, strength training and putting on some lean tissue is going to help them keep that fat off, and essentially, it’s giving them a bigger engine to burn fat,” Belcher said. “More muscle burns fat, and it makes you a more functional human being. We want you to get those immediate results, but then also we want to set you up for what’s going to keep you healthiest for the long term. Putting on that muscular base is what keeps you strong later in life.” 

LIFESTYLE 

Stress and lack of sleep make losing weight more difficult. “Sleep is when your body does most of its recovery,” Belcher said. “It also controls a lot of your hormonal processes. If you’re low on sleep, your body is going to have a lot higher cortisol. When stress levels are higher, you tend to hold more fat because your body is kind of in that flight mode.” Cortisol is a steroid hormone that regulates your metabolic and immune systems. 

Drinking more water is another way to keep your body functioning properly, he said. “Most people are low-level dehydrated on a daily basis, and your body systems just don’t function as well if you’re not well-hydrated.” 

Belcher recommends drinking 100 ounces per day. 

Adhering to these three components will ensure weight will come off, and Belcher likes to see people start their training about six months before the big event to give enough time to make changes and see results. 

“Do your research and find a professional,” Belcher said. “I’ve found that speed and degree of results are directly related to the skill of the coach I’m working with. Use your wedding as momentum to start healthy behaviors that could last a lifetime.”

 

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TO HAVE & TO HOLD (AND THROW) (category)

Creatively inspired by Ben Franklin Crafts in New Albany

By Morgan Sprigler

Wedding Season is upon us and the DIY options are endless. Crafting for a wedding not only helps cut down costs but adds a personal touch that won’t soon be forgotten. Can you picture yourself and your soon-to-be being showered in flowers as you exit your ceremony as husband and wife? If so, this is the DIY craft for you! Start saving all of the flowers you receive during your engagement to help out the budget and add that personal touch.

SUPPLIES:

• Dried flowers 

• Essential oil of your choice 

• Cardstock 

• Wooden sign 

• Paint marker 

• Sheer bags 

• Basket 

• Twine 

• Glue gun

 

Materials provided by Ben Franklin Crafts & Frame Shop 420 New Albany Plaza | New Albany benfranklinartsandframing.com 

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STEP ONE 

Gather flowers! I used a combination of flowers, leaves and herbs I found in my garden. Petals from my rose bushes, ivy from my flower beds, basil and lavender from my vegetable garden and hydrangeas from my hydrangea plants. I love the idea of repurposing flowers from your engagement parties, showers or bouquets you’ve received from friends and family over the course of your engagement. All you need is a little sunlight to dry 

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STEP TWO 

Make floral confetti. Combine all of your petals, leaves, etc. in a large bowl and add your essential oils. I went pretty heavy with my oil, as I love all things that smell great! Once you feel like all of your “confetti” is coated in oil, allow everything to dry overnight. 

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STEP THREE 

Make cones to hold your confetti. Starting in the bottom corner, roll your cardstock to create a cone shape. Glue the ends down to hold the cone together. If you find that there is an opening at the bottom of your cone, simply apply a dot of hot glue and pinch the ends together. Cut and tie a piece of twine around the middle, if you wish. 

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STEP FOUR 

Fill your bags (to have) and cones (to throw)! Fill your cones and your sheer bags full of floral confetti. The cones can be used during the celebration, and the bags can be used as gifts for your guests to use in their homes as potpourri. 

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STEP FIVE 

Create your display. I found all of my supplies at Ben Franklin in New Albany. They have an amazing selection of baskets, bowls and trays that could be used to display your creation. I also found a distressed wooden sign that I used to write, “To Have and To Throw.” So cute!! Assemble however you would like. 

Congratulations to all of you newly-engaged couples! This is such an exciting time in your lives. Enjoy every single moment! Wishing you so much love and happiness!

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XO,

Morgan

 

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Here Comes the Bride, Er, Bridal Dress

Laurel Wreath Bridal Owner Laurie Haag shares what’s hot this season?

By Mandy Wolf Detwiler

Photo of Laurie Haag by Naomi Ruth Photography

Photos of wedding gowns courtesy Madi Lane 

Haven gown available at Laurel Wreath Bridal.

Haven gown available at Laurel Wreath Bridal.

Finely with skirt available at Laurel Wreath Bridal.

Finely with skirt available at Laurel Wreath Bridal.

So you’ve got the ring on your finger. Your next step is to most likely pick up a bridal magazine. Maybe two. But don’t get your heart set on the first couture piece you see – chances are you won’t find it in Kentuckiana and if you, do the price is likely scary enough to scare the curl out of your hair.

Still don’t be defeated, says Laurie Haag, a wedding planner and owner of Laurel Wreath Bridal. These books are designed to give you an idea of what you want, be it a mermaid train, the poofiest dress found or sleek and sophisticated.

Haag dislikes being asked what’s hot in the bridal world, because that depends on location. Here in Southern Indiana, we’re still pretty traditional

Finley cape full length gown available at Laurel Wreath Bridal

Finley cape full length
gown available at
Laurel Wreath Bridal

“Bazaar magazine might say that suiting and blazers or these super really avant-garde bridal separates with detachable crazy trains are what’s going to trend for 2020,” Haag says. “I can 100 percent tell you the brides in the Midwest and in our area aren’t going to connect to that. They could say that’s what is the trend or what we’re moving toward. I always say that’s not for every bride in every area of the United States.

“There are some things that are kind of trends that I can see coming up,” Haag says. That includes add-on bridal capes –– not the long, winter styles designed to keep a bride warm, but light and gauzy capes that simply adorn the shoulders.

“It’s a short, beautiful capelet over a plain gown,” Haag says. “The capelet has the detail, the lace and the beading. (We also see) capes that attach to the front of the gowns and act as sort of the veil.”

Made of organza or tulle, these longer capes serve as both a stunning addition to a gown and take the place of the veil if a bride doesn’t want to wear one.

Henley with cape available at Laurel Wreath Bridal.

Henley with cape available at Laurel Wreath Bridal.

Feather details along the bottom of gowns are popular, but so too are more structured gowns of yesteryear.

“They’re trying to say that high-low hems are trying to make a comeback,” Haag says. “I’ve not seen it in Bridal Market, but it might eventually.” The aforementioned bridal event happens at the end of September and sets the tone for buyers for 2020.

“Traditionally, most bridal boutiques are doing their buys for the next season at the end of August/beginning of September, and that’s when the designers are doing their new visions that the brides are going to be able to get their hands on,” Haag says.

Haag says “illusion lace, sometimes labeled as “tattoo lace” on the sleeve or top is very “now” and “we saw a lot of Mikado satin at the last market, so I’m sure that’s going to carry over as well.”

Does fabric make a difference anymore? Haag said no, “and I’m a big proponent of not really trying to follow trends anyway. … We always say in our bridal appointments that people should have an open mind.”

Some brides come in with poof, glitz, Pinterest and “Say Yes to the Dress” on the brain, but once she starts exploring, “they’re not connecting, they don’t look that good on them and we’ll say at some point in the appointment ‘Hey, you want to try something a little more unexpected?’” Haag says. “At that point we’ve won their trust and they’re like, ‘Ok, sure!’ and that’s the bride that’s going to walk out with the most straight, sleek, no-embellishment, super body conscious beautiful gown, and it takes them by surprise.

Henley full length gown available at Laurel Wreath Bridal

Henley full length gown available at Laurel Wreath Bridal

“We can talk about trends, but I feel like every bridal, their dress shopping is a journey and they need to be open-minded.”

Haag suggests brides not get overwhelmed and to visit as many local high-end boutiques as it takes to find the one that makes her eyes sparkle, “and she almost doesn’t want to take it off,” she says. “That’s the one.”

So You’ve Been Asked to Be a Bridesmaid … Now What?

No, lime green doesn’t look good on everyone. And no, you can’t cut every dress short and wear it again (although I did once!).

Says wedding planner Laurie Haag: “We tend to recommend that the bride picks the color that she wants, maybe the stylistic look of what she’d like her bridesmaids to look like –– not that she should get any opinion from her bridesmaids, and we all know that bridesmaids are of varying ages, sizes various stages of life (like bridesmaids who are expecting or will have just had a baby and are more body conscious), you really try to keep that process simplified. We would hope that bridesmaids realize and understand that we think of bridesmaids as they’re going to be framing the photos. They’re going to be side by side with the bride in the total bridal party. They’re the frame to make the bride and groom shine.”

Halo and Haisley gowns available at Laurel Wreath Bridal.

Halo and Haisley gowns available at Laurel Wreath Bridal.

Haag recommends the bride choose a couple of dresses, a couple pairs of shoes and have their bridal party come to a consensus. Letting bridesmaids choose their own, say blush and back, is an invitation for disaster as there are many interpretations of both colors.

“You give bridesmaids total control, and it just gets crazy,” Haag says.

Ivaine gown available at Laurel Wreath Bridal.

Ivaine gown available at
Laurel Wreath Bridal.


INTERNATIONAL BRIDAL STYLE COMES TO LOUISVILLE AND SOUTHERN INDIANA

In addition to a wide array of dresses, headpieces and accessories, Laurel Wreath Bridal is the exclusive carrier of Madi Lane gowns, which are pictured in these pages.


Laurel Wreath Bridal

203 W. 1st St.

New Albany

812.946.2038

LaurelWreathBridal.com

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The Legend of the Laurel Wreath!

OK, so we are being a bit dramatic. There is not really a huge “legend” behind our Laurel Wreath branding — but there is a story to it. 

A laurel wreath is simply a round wreath made of connected leaves and branches of the bay laurel plant. It’s a symbol of triumph or victory that dates to Greek Mythology. In ancient times, wreaths were awarded to victors in athletic competitions. They were also a symbol of martial victory in Rome and were used to crown a successful commander during his triumph. In modern idiomatic usage, it refers to a victory. extolmag_28_ad_final_page_025_image_0002

So, why in the world did we name our bridal boutique Laurel Wreath Bridal? For owner Laurie Haag, it came about quickly after exhausting all the cliche “bridally” sounding names. After careful consideration, she thought, “What is more personal that says something about me?” Well, her name is Laurie. She has four daughters. At least with two of those daughters she considered the name Laurel. But she always ended up steering away from it because for one, Laurel was a pretty unique name back in the late 80s and 90s, and this was back before unusual names were really all the rage. Plus, she thought, Laurie and Laurel — and their grandpa’s name being Larry — maybe was a little too much. Larry, Laurie, Laurel sounded like a recipe for disaster when it came to family functions or in the public when people would get all that confused. So, she always ended up changing her mind. extolmag_28_ad_final_page_025_image_0001

But, when she had the opportunity to revisit the name for her business, she seized it. She thought it was an excellent way to give a nod to the fact that her bridal shop was her new “baby” that would need lots of nurturing and love along the way. The connotation of a laurel wreath just sounded pretty. Plus, Laurie really loved the idea of it signifying victory! So, for us, Laurel Wreath is a way of celebrating the victory in the dress search. We love to help brides find the perfect gown for their day. Each bride receives an special wreath of her own at their dress pick up. It’s just a small touch, that for us is a way of personalizing your dress victory and welcoming you into the Laurel Family! 

 

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EnJoy the Setting

Stunning new outdoor venue in Henryville makes planning easy 

BY MANDY WOLF DETWILER | PHOTOS BY CHRISTIAN WATSON AND COURTESY IMAGES 

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When planning a wedding, the bride and groom have a plethora of decisions to make, from choosing date right down to selecting a guest book and designing the invitations. One of the biggest decisions, of course, is choosing where the event will take place. 

The location sets the tone for the entire event. A barn can be dressed up or down. A rented reception hall gives the bride and groom ample space with which to work. But if it’s elegance you seek, one can hardly do better than EnJoy the Venue, located off Flat Rock Road in Henryville. The picturesque setting overlooks a lake named after co-owner Sydney Higginbotham. 

But the property is more than just a dream-wedding venue. During the off season, it’s also a stunning place for yoga, CrossFit and pop-up events like canvas painting and wine events. 

“We opened July of last year in a rush for a wedding for a good friend’s daughter,” says co-owner Tracy Reardon. “There were so many bumps and tension was so high with the pressure of completing it satisfactorily for her wedding. Doing something for a friend is risky in business, and I didn’t want it to affect that relationship. We got it finished in time. There were over 300 people, and it was the worst storm of the year with tornado warnings and lightning. Total disaster. Talk about trial by fire! It turned into the best wedding ever. People left soaking wet but with so much joy it was amazing. There are stories online about the wedding.” 

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Reardon, is a CPA, and business partner and long-time friend Lee Sweeney actually took Reardon to see the property 20 years ago to get an opinion about making it a housing development. Sweeney had built two beautiful lakes on the property and did all of the infrastructure himself. 


“The sun sets right over the lake. It’s incredible.” – EnJoy the Venue co-owner Tracy Reardon


“He is a true visionary,” Reardon says. “I actually purchased a lot for a house back then across the lake from the venue but never built there, so it’s vacant across from the venue. One day, we were just talking casually, and I said I have always thought about opening a spa or a wedding venue, and just wanted his professional opinion. He surprised me and said he has always wanted to do [a wedding venue, too]. I asked where, and he said right here, and that’s where it started. 

“My daughter Sydney is partner as well. She went to Sullivan University and has an event planning degree, so it’s a great fit for her. Flat Rock Estates is one of the most beautiful and relaxing places you’ll find.” 

Initially, the team wanted to “make it simple, and see what direction it organically grew,” Reardon says. “We considered a large indoor building and may do that in the future. There is space for retreat cabins so we could do corporate retreats or a place for people to come in the fall to just relax and enjoy nature. 

“We have an Amish-built pavilion that is 2,800 square feet. It is open air. We are considering enclosing it in the near future in case of weather. It’s a beautiful space and the lighting makes it magical at night.” 

The team built stadium seating going up a hill, with no obstructed view of the event participants and the large lake, dubbed Sydney Lake after Reardon’s daughter, as the stunning backdrop. 

“The sun sets right over the lake,” Reardon says. “It’s incredible.” 

That setting is something many other wedding venues just can’t boast. 

“The setting is unlike any place around,” Reardon says. “When you come in the entrance, there is a feel of relaxation (that) immediately everyone tells us. It is so quiet and peaceful. We hear over and over there isn’t a need for much decor because you can’t outdo what is naturally there already when you look around. To be able to enjoy your family and friends in such a relaxed quiet setting is irreplaceable. 

“We like to say we don’t just hold events, we help create experiences to last a lifetime. It’s truly why we got into this business. Watching people react to the space and the comments about the setting make us so happy. Then to see the love and laughter people share is the biggest reward for us. We work hard to make sure our couples have the experience for their guests that isn’t just a wedding. Instead, it’s one of those memories when people think back they smile because of the experience they had here with us.” 

In the off season, the setting provides plenty of opportunities for other events, making good use of a stunning location. 

“We are starting to organize pop-up events, such as yoga and fitness classes,” Reardon says. “This is so exciting, and the response we have had is heart-warming. I think there is a craving for people to have a place to come and do the things they love to do but in a unique setting once in a while. 

“We have a couple of artists who would like to do art classes by the lake. Yoga and fitness in a setting such as this is perfect. We want to host EnJoy Yoga, EnJoy Art etc. at the venue. I’ve spoken with a couple of musicians and would love to have a place music students could come and share their talents. Dinner under the stars is an idea we have knocked around as well. Sitting with friends enjoying the sounds of tree frogs and crickets and unwinding doing what you EnJoy is what we want to offer.” 


Choosing Your Setting

When choosing a wedding venue, EnJoy the Venue coowner Tracy Reardon offers some advice:

“Of course an outdoor venue is not for everyone,” she says. “You won’t get the same setting or feel, but the flip side is the uncertainty of the weather. One of the best weddings we had was in the middle of a storm. You have to be able to let that go upfront and roll with it in those cases. So asking yourself if you accept that uncertainty is important.”

Reardon continued: “I think couples need to list the most important things for their special day and choose the best fit based on their own list. Couples should ask venues their policies on outside vendors, times they will have access to the venue, cancellation policies and what is included with the rental.”


Learn more about EnJoy the Venue, which is located at 13967 E. Flatrock Trail in Henryville, by visiting enjoythevenue.com or calling 812.595.2168.

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Shelby and Jamison Valvano

May 11, 2019 

PHOTOS COURTESY ALEXANDRIA KAY PHOTOGRAPHY ALEXANDRIAKAYPHOTOGRAPHY.COM 


REHEARSAL DINNER VENUE: Noah’s Event Venue 

REHEARSAL DINNER CATERING: Susie Phelps and Sue Ann Everitt were the caterers. They used to have a catering company but don’t anymore and are friends of the family. 

WEDDING VENUE: Noah’s Event Venue 

WEDDING DRESS: Sher’s Bridal Boutique 

HAIR/MAKEUP: Molly Johnson at Tranz4mationz Salon 

GROOM’S ATTIRE: Men’s Warehouse 

CAKE/BAKERY: Sweet Treats by Jennifer (Jennifer Schindler) 

FLORIST: Bride’s grandmother, Deborah Bartley, did all of the flowers throughout the wedding and reception 

PHOTOGRAPHY: Alexandria Kay Photography 

VIDEOGRAPHY: Braden Lee Renfro 

MUSIC: Spin Around Sound (John Cortie)


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HOW WE MET: Jamie (Jamison) and I have been best friends since we met in the fourth grade and remained friends all throughout elementary, middle and high school until we finally started dating junior year of high school – and the rest was history. I always knew he was the one. 

Our wedding was…filled with so much love and happiness. It was a dream come true and I truly have my incredible parents to thank for that. 

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Marriage is…about becoming a team. You’re going to spend the rest of your life learning about each other, and every now and then, things blow up. But the beauty of marriage is that if you picked the right person, and you both love each other, you’ll always find a way to get through it. Marriage is commitment and never-ending love. It’s the most special kind of friendship. 

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Aaron & RuthAnne Burns

May 11, 2019 

PHOTOS COURTESY KATIE MARIE PHOTOGRAPHIE KATIEMARIEPHOTOGRAPHIE.COM 


REHEARSAL DINNER VENUE: Groom’s grandmother’s house, Ruth Kaiser 

REHEARSAL DINNER CATERING: Groom’s mother’s cooking: DeAnn Burns 

WEDDING VENUE: St Louis Bertrand Catholic Church 

RECEPTION VENUE: Hyatt Regency Hotel Downtown 

WEDDING DRESS: Essence of Australia purchased at Rebecca’s Bridal Boutique with alterations by Therese Grant 

CUSTOM WEDDING VEIL : Made with fabric from the bride’s mother’s wedding dress by The Hat Girls 

HAIR: Jessica Kelley with Creations Hair Design 

MAKEUP: Charolette de la Torre 

GROOM’S ATTIRE: Bonobos suit with alterations by Ace Custom Tailors and Johnston & Murphy shoes 

WEDDING CATERING: Breakfast buffet catered by The Hyatt’s culinary staff and donuts by Adrienne’s & Co 

CAKE/BAKERY: Fun-fetti cake from Winnie’s Decadent Desserts & Deli 

FLORIST: Top Knots Florals 

PHOTOGRAPHY: Katie Marie Photographie 

MUSIC: The Cincinnati Sinatra 

TRANSPORTATION: Kentuckiana Express Shuttle-Limo, LLC 


HOW WE MET: In February of 2017, RuthAnne was brought on as an administrative assistant at Neace Ventures. She was warned that Aaron was a know-it-all and a bit of a jerk and that their personalities would clash; however, the two quickly bonded, if for no other reason because their desks were 5 feet from each other. Although they thought, without ever even talking about it, they would never date the other, they were both smitten. 

 

extolmag_28_ad_final_page_036_image_0001After several months of working together, Aaron was convinced he must pursue RuthAnne. He awkwardly revealed his feelings for RuthAnne at her favorite lunch spot – Chic-fil-A. Eleven months later, they were engaged. Twelve months after that, they were married. 

Our wedding was… Beautiful. We had hoped for everything to go perfectly, but we couldn’t have anticipated just how great everything went. The Mass was solemn and respectful of the sacrament taking place. The sermon pulled no punches in communicating the significance of the contract we were entering into with each other. The weather was perfect. The food was delicious. The music was both classy and fun. Friends, family and benefactors alike all had an amazing time celebrating with us. The only bump in the road was that the wedding rings were left at the hotel, and one of the groomsmen and bridesmaids drove like maniacs between the church and the hotel in order to make it back in time for Aaron to get to the sacristy behind the altar. 

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Marriage is… a sacrament. First and foremost we hope to help make each other holier and more virtuous people. We want to get each other to heaven. We pray we will have many children. We hope to avoid some of the trappings of modern life. We would like to spend less of our lives in front of screens and more time in good books, nature and prayer.

 

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Embracing Adversity

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“I WAS TAUGHT THAT WHEN YOU FACE ADVERSITY, IT’S EITHER GOING TO DESTROY YOU OR MAKE YOU BETTER. … YOU CLIMB OUT OF THE HOLE AND FIND OUT HOW TO BE BETTER, AND WHEN YOU FIND OUT WHAT’S BETTER, YOU KEEP GOING.” –LARRY WILDER

Southern Indiana Attorney Larry Wilder opens up about love and life-defining moments

BY RICK REDDING | PHOTO OF LARRY WILDER BY CHRISTIAN WATSON

WEDDING PHOTOGRAPHY BY JESS AND GENIE VOGELSANG OF BIRDSONG WEDDING PHOTOGRAPHY

When Larry Wilder and his now-wife Teresa were dating, she once shared an embarrassing personal story and then asked if he could remember an embarrassing moment in his own life. Larry thought he was being set up.

That’s because he has perhaps one of the “best” embarrassing stories – a tale that put him in the national headlines and still today, 10 years later, comes up first in Google searches for his name.

It wasn’t until that moment while swapping stories months into their relationship that Teresa realized the charming guy she was dating and falling in love with was the same person she’d seen images of passed out in a trash can in the news.

Today, Larry may be the best-known lawyer in Southern Indiana, especially since representing high-profile clients such as the infamous Katina Powell, who wrote the book that rocked the University of Louisville athletics department. But it was his defense of a murder suspect, he believes, that led to what he now calls the “trash can incident” and, more importantly, the ultimate test of character.

“I ended up out with a group of guys, one of whom unfortunately had lost his mother in a horrible crime, and I was representing the gentleman who had taken his mother’s life. We probably spent too much time in the same place out together,” Larry said. “He thought he was getting a great prank on me at the end of the night because I didn’t have any idea what was going on. He got a whole lot more bang for his buck because he didn’t realize the police officers who came to investigate this potential crime included a police officer that I had probably tormented more than I should have.”

Larry still doesn’t recall how he ended up in the trash can passed out in front of his house but was soon dealing with a “defining moment” in his life.

“So, the next thing you know, you guys in the media end up with the pictures. I was worldwide news and the most Googled name in Switzerland for a week,” he recalled.

Faced with a moment that could have destroyed his career – and more – Larry said he did the only thing he know to do: He put on his best suit and went to work.

“I was taught that when you face adversity, it’s either going to destroy you or make you better,” he said. “My family were eastern Kentucky coal miners and every day was adverse. Either you climbed back in the mines and figured out a way to stay out of them, or you went down in the mines and you died in them. My concept through life is you make it better. You climb out of the hole and find out how to be better, and when you find out what’s better, you keep going.

“I was raised that way and it was the right thing to do, rather than run and hide. In this day and age, you can’t hide from anything.”

Another part of moving on was his personal life. Larry, who has a son and two daughters from his first marriage, had been divorced for several years when he made a pitch on a dating web site to Teresa. She said that she had just ended an 8-year relationship on the heels of an 18-year marriage. She’d just signed up on the dating site and had dozens of men requesting dates.

“I looked at (Larry), and he wasn’t my type,” she said. “But I love words, and he’s a good writer. I liked what he said and ended up canceling a date (with someone else) to go out with him.”

That first date ended up being a three-hour dinner at Volare, one of her favorite spots, in which the conversation was so intense she didn’t get to finish her scallions. By the weekend, Larry had convinced her to let him go with her to the St. James Court Art Show (“He invited himself,” she clarified. “He’s quite the negotiator.”). The first date felt more like an interview, Teresa recalled, with “lots of questions.”

This was the fall of 2009, just months after Larry’s trash can incident. Teresa, who was working as a pediatric nurse at Home of the Innocents and had a home in Bullitt County, said she fell in love with the Indiana attorney on date No. 5.

She moved in with him in 2011 but didn’t sell her home until 2013. They didn’t get married until 2017.

“Early on, we had no interest in getting married,” she said.

Of course, that changed.

Larry helped Teresa get through some health issues, which led to her quitting her job. She became a grandmother, which led her to reevaluate the situation. And then Larry asked her to be his wife.

“After 8 years of being together and 6 years of living together, Teresa and I got married,” Larry said. “We flew to Sedona (Arizona), and only her daughter and husband and our granddaughter went with us. We got married in what I consider one of the most spiritual places in the United States. We had a great time and are looking forward to going back.”

After all those years, both said the time was right. Teresa wore cowboy boots under her dress, and the pair had to hike two miles to the wedding spot.

“As a lawyer, there’s a certain part of me that likes legal institutions. We both kind of agreed it was time to make that a legal institution and get married. It’s been great for both of us. It changes your perspective of things. Even though we shared the same house and have been together, it gives you some security and continuity,” he said.

And that’s how the marriage works.

They enjoy hiking together, even though Teresa had to talk him into the idea that it was fun. She plans trips and dinners out; he supplies the big personality. And Wilder, who once checked in at more than 300 pounds, lost a third of that and learned to live a healthier lifestyle with Teresa’s help.

On a recent trip to Boston for a business conference, she had lunch and dinner reservations set for the entire trip a week before they left.

“We’re weird in an alike way,” she explained. “When you find someone, you just settle down. I just truly think it was the right thing to do, and it’s profoundly different than the boyfriend-girlfriend relationship, in a good way.”

Larry’s career as an attorney has blossomed since the trash can incident. In the immediate aftermath, he resigned as attorney for the Jeffersonville City Council and Clark County School Board. The council has since retained him, and Wilder has more than 300 active cases today.

A sole practitioner, Larry has an assistant, Elise Jackson, who has been with him for 20 years, and his daughter works for him as well.

It has helped that Larry seems to know everyone in town and has earned their respect through the years. And he’s known a lot of the people he deals with for decades, even back to childhood. He’s known John Schnatter as a competitor in athletics since they were 10 years old, and he went to college at Hanover with Vice President Mike Pence and actor Woody Harrelson. He has close ties to the University of Louisville, where he earned his law degree, and has represented UofL athletes when they’ve gotten in trouble.

“The people here in this community know you, and they know your family, and they know your work ethic, and they know your willingness to fight for what you believe in. And to fight for what you’ve been hired to fight for,” he said.

Brad Jacobs, a Clark County circuit court judge, said Wilder was “bigger than life” when he was growing up.

“He taught me how to manage cases more than just trying them,” Jacobs said. “He’s super honest; he’ll tell you the good and bad. And he can be aggressive when he has to be.”

Attorney Bart McMahon said Wilder went out of his way to welcome him when he first came to Indiana to practice 20 years ago. Through those two decades, Larry has become “a good personal friend” and teamed with him on the Katina Powell case.

“He knows people, and he can read people better than anyone I know,” McMahon said. “He has a load of personality and can connect well with anyone.”

Larry believes his success is attributable to simply working hard. And he recognizes that the trash can episode was, indeed, a defining moment.

“I’ve represented a lot of really good people and a lot of very interesting cases. It’s a tribute to the fact that people recognize that I work hard, and I don’t let adversity or let things change course for me or my clients. You just put your nose down and you go. I think that’s something that people admire and like about their lawyer,” he said. “I think it made me a better person, a better attorney and made me a hell of a lot more money.”

Time has its way of healing, and Wilder is quick to make jokes today about his most embarrassing moment, though it hasn’t always been easy.

“I think in life if you walk away from what has happened and then take what’s happened in your life and move forward using that as a tool to be better,” he said, “then it’s much better than trying to pretend like it didn’t happen and act like it’s gonna go away.”